My maternity leave has ended.
Because my son was born prematurely, we had originally decided that I would extend my leave until his due date. That gave me an extra two months off. It worked out well, because that would take me to the beginning of semester two at school and I definitely preferred going back to a fresh start.
However, the closer we got to my son’s first birthday the more I was reconsidering our decision. Logistically, getting two kids and two adults ready and out the door by 7 am every morning was a daunting thought. I’m a morning person and strive on routine, however that is often in direct contrast to my husband’s personality.
We have a fantastic at-home daycare for my daughter and my son had a spot waiting for him when I went back to work. But suddenly that wasn’t enough for me anymore. I didn’t want to miss out on that time with my children. So my husband and I made the difficult decision that I would not be going back to work.
And really it wasn’t that difficult.
I am lucky that in the teaching profession I can take up to 3 years off and still have a position. With full-day kindergarten, this would take me right until both kids are in school full-time. That is the ideal situation, but for now I am extending my leave one semester at a time.
Financially it will be a change. Our family income will be affected and it will also take me some time to get used to not having my own income. I have worked for a pay cheque for over 20 years.
I had never thought that I would want to be a stay at home mom. I love my job and I have always felt that part of my identity was my career. I think that many women in my generation feel the same way. However, I think that there is a swing back to that of my parent’s generation. With more people waiting to have kids until their career is established, I think when it is a feasible option many women are choosing the career of stay at home mom.
So my days are slowly changing. I search Michael’s for sales on craft supplies, I book play-dates with friends, I create daily and weekly schedules, I meal plan, I look for free activities at local organizations and I wear mommy-clothes every day. I am officially a Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) and I couldn’t imagine doing anything else.
What activities do you do with your kids to keep them busy?
- You cannot afford to be a SAHM mom (wealthysinglemommy.com)
- My SAHM week (artsyprincess.wordpress.com)
- 10 ways I maintain my sanity as a SAHM (cloudywithachanceofwine.com)
- Lesson Two: Taking a Break (lessonsofathirtysomething.wordpress.com)
- On Being a Stay at Home Mom (bitsofthepastandpresent.wordpress.com)
- A Letter of Apology to All Stay at Home Moms (blogher.com)